For some Illinois couples, it can be an agonizing decision whether or not to divorce. Many times the divorce is triggered when the couple hits a breaking point and realizes that they would be better off divorcing than continuing in an unfulfilling marriage. Often, there is a certain amount of bitterness involved, and it can be tempting for one spouse to take it out on the other because of the emotional turmoil being felt.
With this said it might be best to end the marriage with a quick settlement rather than drawing it out for a long divorce settlement route. While a quick settlement might seem too quick for some and not give them the time to properly process the divorce, if approached with full openness and commitment to fairness it can speed up attaining the new life that is desired. Furthermore, if the emotional processing follows a well designed settlement, it will be done outside an environment that might tempt one or the other spouse to sabotage the effort.
It can also help children who may be involved. While divorce can be hard for children to handle, it is even worse for children to view their parents battle it out in front of them. By having a quick settlement, the children stand less of a chance of feeling as if they are part of a war between two people that they love. At the same time, speed should not lead to the children's needs and wishes being swept to the side.
Finally, a quick settlement, if it fully meets each party's definition of fairness, may be good for one's health. By getting to a negotiated settlement fast, stress can be reduced. Everyone knows that stress can be a killer and there are few things as stressful as long, drawn out, emotional battles with someone is trying to get away from.
Source: The Huffington Post, "Make Divorce Settlement Not War," Lois Tarter, July 18, 2012