After a divorce, many Illinois parents that have child custody may feel guilty about exposing their children to such an emotional situation. After all, many children are in as much of an emotional state as their parents, especially as they get used to the new child custody arrangements. Parents are sometimes tempted to give their children gifts to assuage some of the distress that may come at the onset of divorce. However, there are better ways to help the children feel better after divorce.
One way is for Illinois parents to work on making their house a home for their children. While it can be tempting to redo the entire house to eliminate any traces of the ex, children may find this unsettling. Such a substantial rearrangement can make them feel like they are strangers to their own home. Instead, while some change may be okay, it should be done in a way that involves the children.
If the parent with child custody is moving to a different place, other methods can be taken. For example, children should have bedrooms that allow them to feel like they at least have a home in the parent's place where they can retreat. Also, one quick way to make children feel invited in their own home is to put their artwork or family photos around the house.
Getting used to child custody arrangements can be difficult for children. However, having a home that they know they are welcome in can go a long way in making them feel more comfortable about the divorce. After all, by creating a home for their children, parents can reassure their children in an active way that they still have a home for them in their hearts. These issues surrounding living arrangements and lifestyles are properly addressed during divorce negotiations so parents can attempt to achieve a balance for the children amidst the coming change in living arrangements.
Source: Huffington Post, "Attention, Guilt-Ridden Divorced Parents!," Christina Pesoli, Aug. 31, 2012